Question
As every one knows that in our religion parents deserve much respect from their children. If the parents of husband tell their son to divorce his wife or any thing else to hurt her although they have no specific reason, then what should he do? Many people give the example of Hazrat Ibrahim (may Allah be pleased with him). So please guide me.
Answer
Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the World; and may His blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon all his Family and Companions.
Obeying parents is one of the most mandatory obligations that Allah, The Exalted, has ordained in the Qur'an.
Allah Says (interpretation of meaning): {And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. …} [17: 23].
This obedience is restricted to what is good and Halal.
In this vein, the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: "Obedience is but in right (and Halal matters)" .
Thus, if a wife is righteous and has children, but the husband's parents ordered him to divorce her due to some caprice in themselves, then the husband is not obliged to obey them. This is the opinion of Imam Ahmad and others.
When Sheikh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah was asked about a man whose mother hates his wife and asks him to divorce her, answered: 'It is Haram to divorce his wife, but he has to treat his mother kindly and divorcing his wife is not a part of such a good treatment with his mother' .
As for beating or hurting a wife (woman), this is Haram if there is no genuine reason. The Sunnah prevents such an action. It is recorded in Sunan of Abu Dawood and Ibn Majah from Iyas Ibn Abdullah that Allah's Messenger (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: "Do not beat females" . This is Abu Dawood 's narration.
Beating is allowed to refine a woman's behaviour if a husband finds what is hateful, but beating is not allowed if a husband can amend her through other means.
As for using the story of Prophet Ibrahim (Alaihi As-Salaam) in relation to divorcing one's wife as a form of obedience to parents, we state that there was a genuine reason for ordering his son to divorce his wife.
Obedience in such a case is confined only to what is right. It is recorded in Sahih al-Bukhari that when Ibrahim (Alaihi As-Salaam) asked Ismail 's (Alaihi As-Salaam) wife about their life, she said: "We are in bad state, we live in straitened circumstances. She complained".
This was an indication to bad character, and every objection against Allah is to be rejected.
Allah knows best.
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