Question
Can a father compel his daughter to marry a man whom she dislikes? Does she have to obey her parents' wishes if they want her to marry someone?
Answer
An adult person, whether male or female, cannot be forced by anyone to marry against his or her will.
Neither the father nor the mother has the power to oblige their son or daughter to marry against his or her will. When women complained to the Prophet (peace be upon him) that their parents forced them to marry men whom they did not want to marry, the Prophet (peace be upon him) gave them the option of annulment.
It is not the purpose of guardianship to force a woman to marry someone who she does not want to marry. Once, a woman came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and said: “O Messenger of Allah, my father married me to my cousin in order to raise his social standing, but I do not want to be married to him.”
The Prophet (may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) gave her the option of annulment. At this point, she said: “I have already reconciled myself to my father’s decision, but I wanted it to be known that women have a say in the matter.”
[Sunan al-Nasâ’î (3269), Sunan Ibn Mâjah (1874), and Musnad Ahmad (25043) and authenticated by Shu`ayb al-Arna`ût et al in Tahqîq Musnad Ahmad (41/493)]
A child must generally obey his or her parents. However, this obedience does not include a life-long commitment to an unwanted marriage partner.
And Allah knows best.
Neither the father nor the mother has the power to oblige their son or daughter to marry against his or her will. When women complained to the Prophet (peace be upon him) that their parents forced them to marry men whom they did not want to marry, the Prophet (peace be upon him) gave them the option of annulment.
It is not the purpose of guardianship to force a woman to marry someone who she does not want to marry. Once, a woman came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and said: “O Messenger of Allah, my father married me to my cousin in order to raise his social standing, but I do not want to be married to him.”
The Prophet (may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) gave her the option of annulment. At this point, she said: “I have already reconciled myself to my father’s decision, but I wanted it to be known that women have a say in the matter.”
[Sunan al-Nasâ’î (3269), Sunan Ibn Mâjah (1874), and Musnad Ahmad (25043) and authenticated by Shu`ayb al-Arna`ût et al in Tahqîq Musnad Ahmad (41/493)]
A child must generally obey his or her parents. However, this obedience does not include a life-long commitment to an unwanted marriage partner.
And Allah knows best.
-islamtoday.net
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