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Wednesday, 18 October 2017

The Concept of Tawatur


The first thing to be considered when a report reaches us is how did it reach us, is it by way of Tawatur, or by way of Ahad?
Tawatur in the Arabic language comes from the tri-literal root wa • to • ra, represented in English by the letters ‘w’ • ‘t’ • ‘r’. Some words derived from this root have "consecutiveness," "rapid succession," or copiousness woven into their meaning in one way or another.
For example, Allah Says (what means): {Then We sent Our messengers in succession.} [Quran 23:44] The word used in Arabic is tatra, which means one after the other, in succession. Besides, in a great poem, Labeed Ibn Rabee'ah describes the raindrops descending in "rapid succession," drenching the fur coat of a doe, using the word Mutawatir.
Phonetically (and even visually when the sounds are written in English letters), this word sounds is like its meaning: watara watara watara....You can imagine that sound of raindrops pattering against a window-pane, one drop after another.
Tawatur in the terminology of the scholars of hadeeth means transmitting a narration or religious text by a group of narrators from a group of narrators, generation after generation and so forth, and they are all trustworthy people and it is absolutely impossible for them to agree on a lie. The relationship between the terminological meaning and the linguistic one is that what is Mutawatir is reported by one person after the other after the other and so on, as if the people were coming like raindrops in a downpour.
For example, take the great Indian Ocean tsunami that hit Asia and Africa on 26 December 2004. The vast majority of readers of this article were not eyewitnesses to its actual occurrence. Nor can one depend on what was seen on television to prove that it did happen because we all know that film technology is eminently capable of producing imagery, whether accurate or fake.
Even if we exclude the possibility of tampering with images, the report we received was that the tsunami hit the entire coastline of the Indian Ocean, Asia, and Africa, while the images we saw only covered a minute portion of this. What would you say if I told you that the tsunami never happened and that the news was a conspiracy? You would reject what I said without investigation, and you would be right in doing so because it would be irrational to think that millions of people who were, indeed, witnesses to the tsunami would conspire to invent such a lie. Even though you were likely not an eyewitness to the tsunami, you can be 100 percent certain that it did happen. This is an example of a Mutawatir report.
There are three conditions that must be fulfilled for a report to be Mutawatir:
1. A large unexceptionable number of people convey the report. There is no specific number that constitutes a "large number." Rather, this is defined by the impossibility of conspiracy or collective mistake.
2. That there are a large number of people in every link of the chain of narrators.
3. That the conveyed report itself be about something that is tangible or perceptible, such as: "We saw," or, "We heard," or, "We felt," and so on. So saying, for example, that the universe began with a big bang cannot be Mutawatir, since it is something conceptual, something that none of us were capable of perceiving. However, that does not mean that the big bang is false. It just means that it is not a Mutawatir report.
There are two categories of Mutawatir reports:
The first category is those reports that are conveyed word for word, such as the statement of the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention )"He who lies about me intentionally, then let him await his place in Hell-Fire." More than 70 Companions who actually had heard the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) saying these words had reported it. Then the number increased in every successive link of the chain through the generations.
The second category of Mutawatir reports are those Ahadeeth whose meanings are conveyed by Tawatur but not a verbatim, word-for-word statement, such as the fact that the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) used to raise his hands while supplicating. This has been reported in about 100 Ahadeeth, all of which have some variations, but make the common, perceptible observation that the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) used to raise his hands when supplicating.
There are a significant number of Mutawatir reports, but the vast majority of Hadeeth literature is comprised of Ahad reports, meaning anything that does not fall under the category of Tawatur.
The scholar, Jamal Al-Deen Al-Sayooti, and others have compiled these Mutawatir reports into books of their own for easy reference.
This is the general idea of the concept of Tawatur. -islamweb.net

The Explanation of Soorat Al-Bayyinah (Clear Evidence) - II


The text of the chapter [from verse 6 to the end]
6. Indeed, they who disbelieved among the People of the Scripture and the polytheists will be in the fire of Hell, abiding eternally therein. Those are the worst of creatures.
7. Indeed, they who have believed and done righteous deeds — those are the best of creatures.
8. Their reward with Allah will be gardens of perpetual residence beneath which rivers flow, wherein they will abide forever, Allah being pleased with them and they with Him. That is for whoever has feared his Lord.
Explanation
Allah, the Most High, informs us about the end of the unjust rejecters of faith from among the People of the Book and the polytheists who oppose the revealed Books of Allah and the Prophets, may Allah exalt their mention, sent by Him, saying that they (the rejecters) will be thrown into the Hell-fire on the Day of Resurrection, to abide therein for all eternity. They will not be able to evade it, nor will they be removed from it.
"Those are the worst of creatures."
That is, the most despised of Allah's creatures. Then He, Most High, informs us concerning those who are pious, fear Allah and are true Believers, confirming by their words and deeds that they are the best of created beings. Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, and a number of Muslim scholars  may  Allah  have  mercy  upon  them have concluded from this verse that the true believer is superior to the angels, who are part of the creation.
"Their reward with Allah " that is, on the Day of Resurrection.
"Gardens of Eden under which rivers flow; they will dwell therein forever."That is, without interruption, without ceasing.
"Allah being pleased with them-" That is, Allah's Pleasure is better and more sublime than the lasting felicity, which they are given.
"and they with Him." That is, with the infinite Grace bestowed on them by Him.
"That is for whoever has feared his Lord."
That is, this reward can be achieved by him who fears Allah and is devout with a sincere devotion, who worships Him always as if he was seeing Him, knowing that, though he does not see his Lord, his Lord sees him. It is reported on the authority of Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, that he said: "The Messenger of Allah  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) said:
"Shall I not inform you about the best of creation?" They (the audience) said: "Certainly, O, Messenger of Allah!" He said: "A man who takes the reins of his horse (and rides it) in the Way of Allah (in Jihaad) and whenever he hears the call of one in distress, he rides to his rescue. Shall I not inform you of the best of creation?" They said: "Certainly, O, Messenger of Allah!" He said: "A man who (even when he) is busy with his sheep, is steadfast in prayer and pays Zakah (alms). Shall I not inform you about the worst of creation?" They said: "Certainly, O, Messenger of Allah!" He said: "The one who asks in Allah's Name, but does not give in His Name." [Imam Ahmad]
Maalik Ibn 'Amr Ibn Thaabit Al-Ansaari, may Allah be pleased with him, said: "When the Soorah (Quranic chapter) "Indeed, they who disbelieved among the People of the Scripture and the polytheists…" [Al-Bayyinah] was revealed, Archangel Jibreel (Gabriel) said to Prophet Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ): "O, Messenger of Allah! Verily, your Lord orders you to recite this Soorah to Ubayy (one of the prominent reciters and scribes of the Noble Quran among the Companions)." So, the Messenger of Allah  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) said to Ubayy, may Allah be pleased with him: "Verily, Jibreel has ordered me to make you recite this Soorah."Ubayy said: "Then I was mentioned, O, Messenger of Allah?" He  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) said: "Yes." Then Ubayy, may Allah be pleased with him, wept. [Imaams Ahmad, Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
Imaams At-Tirmithi and An-Nasa'ee  may  Allah  have  mercy  upon  them have reported something similar. This Soorah was read to Ubayy Ibn Ka'b merely to strengthen him in his faith, to convey the Message and as a reminder, not for Ubayy to learn something which he did not know or to make him memorize it - and Allah knows best.
Source: Tafseer Ibn Katheer, Juz' 'Amma,- islamweb.net

The Explanation of Soorat Al-Bayyinah (Clear Evidence) – I


In the Name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful
1. Those who disbelieved among the People of the Scripture and the polytheists were not to be parted [from disbelief] until there came to them clear evidence —
2. A Messenger from Allah, reciting purified scriptures.
3. Within which are correct writings [i.e. rulings and laws].
4. Nor did those who were given the Scripture become divided until after there had come to them clear evidence.
5. And they were not commanded except to worship Allah, [being] sincere to Him in religion, inclining to truth, and to establish prayer and to give Zakah (alms). And that is the correct religion. [Quran 98:1-5] 
As for the People of the Scripture they are the Jews and Christians, while the polytheists are those who worship idols and fire from amongst the Arabs and the non-Arabs. Mujahid  may  Allah  have  mercy  upon  him said: "were not to be parted"means that they (the People of the Scripture) will not cease until the Clear Evidence came to them. What the 'Clear Evidence', is explained by the following verse (which means): "A Messenger from Allah, reciting purified scriptures",That is, Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) and that which he recites from the Noble Quran, which was copied by the Heavenly Host (i.e., the angels), on purified sheets, as Allah Says: (what mean):
"[It is recorded] in honored sheets, exalted and purified, [carried] by the hands of messenger-angels, noble and dutiful." [Quran 80:13-16]
"Within which are correct writings [i.e., rulings and laws]."
Ibn Jareer  may  Allah  have  mercy  upon  him said: "It means that amongst the purified scriptures are Scriptures from the Books of Allah, of inestimable value, full of justice, perfectly correct, without any error, because they are from Allah, the Almighty, the All-Powerful."
Qatadah  may  Allah  have  mercy  upon  him said: "A Messenger from Allah, reciting purified scriptures"means that the Quran is mentioned with the best description and that Allah extols it in the most laudatory terms."
Ibn Zayd  may  Allah  have  mercy  upon  him said, concerning the verse (which means): "Within which are correct writings": "It means correct and fair. I say: The Words of Him, the Most High: "Nor did those who were given the Scripture become divided until after there had come to them clear evidence " are like His Words (which mean): "And do not be like the ones who became divided and differed after the clear proofs had come to them. And those will have a great punishment." [Quran 3: 105] That is, the communities (the People of the Books) before us, after Allah, the Exalted, revealed to them proofs and clear signs, became divided and disputed amongst themselves as to what was required of them by Allah, the Most High, in their revealed books. They became involved in major differences as is made clear by the Hadeeth (narration) in which the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) said: "Verily, the Jews are divided into seventy-one different sects, and verily, the Christians are divided into seventy-two sects, and verily, my community will be divided into seventy-three different sects - all of whom will be in the Hell-Fire except one." His Companions asked: "And who are they, O, Messenger of Allah?" He  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention )replied: "Those who follow the path of me and my Companions."
And they were not commanded except to worship Allah, [being] sincere to Him in religion, inclining to truth…"This is like Allah's Words (which mean):"And We sent not before you any messenger except that We revealed to him that, there is no deity except Me, so worship Me." [Quran 21: 25] For this reason, Allah Says (what means): "inclining to truth" that is, professing and practicing the True Religion (Islamic Monotheism) without associating any partners with Allah, as in His Words (which mean):"And We certainly sent into every nation a messenger, [saying] 'Worship Allah and avoid false deities.'" [Quran 16: 36]
"and to establish prayer"- which is the most noble of all physical activities.
"and to give Zakah (alms)" - which is to be charitable towards the poor and the needy.
"And that is the correct religion."
That is the True, the Correct, and the Just Faith - to belong to the most upright, religious community - a moderate community. Many scholars, including Az-Zuhri and Ash-Shafi'i  may  Allah  have  mercy  upon  them have concluded from this verse that true faith must include action (not just belief in the heart), and for this reason, Allah, the Exalted, Says (what means):
"And they were not commanded except to worship Allah, [being] sincere to Him in religion, inclining to truth, and to establish prayer and to give Zakah (alms). And that is the correct religion." -islamweb.net

Tuesday, 17 October 2017

The duty of a cultured woman towards herself and her home


Our society is in need of reform and all powers should collectively cooperate in this process of reform. The desired reform can never be achieved by the state alone, the individual alone, men alone, women alone, the home alone, the school alone or the system alone. All these institutions and individuals must cooperate in establishing the foundations of reform and watch over it until it bears its fruit. The woman, especially she who is cultured, is a fundamental and vital factor within the process of reform. In this concise article, we will shed light on the woman’s duty towards herself and her home as performing this duty qualifies her to perform her duty towards her society.
Sense of Responsibility
 
The first step that enables the woman to do all this is to feel that she is responsible for her family and nation before Allah The Almighty. Feeling that she is responsible before Allah The Almighty urges her to do her best and keep away from negligence because Allah The Exalted knows the treacherous and stealthy looks and that which the hearts conceal. This necessitates her to get rid of indifference and to develop devotion to her own personal affairs like many cultured women do these days. This also requires her to shoulder part of the burdens of reformation and construction. Indeed, human life could never continue without the woman, hence, it is natural for her to participate in all the affairs of life.
 
The second step consists of several factors that raise the woman and prepare her to undertake the mission of reform. These factors include:
1-    Strengthening her connection with the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet,  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ): The Quran represents light, guidance and a strong bond. Whoever holds on to it succeeds, is guided to the right path and attains happiness in this life and in the Hereafter. Similarly, theSunnah of the Prophet,  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ), is the ultimate guidance and the clear path. Hence, it is improper for a cultured Muslim woman to be occupied by diverse life affairs in such a way that she is prevented from returning to these two sources from which to take her provisions. Yes, it is improper for her to let a day pass without dedicating some time to the Quran and the Sunnah, and to read and meditate over them. This strong connection should turn into practical adherence, which makes her life a living interpretation of what came in the Quran and the Sunnah. Also, this connection should urge her to take care of her soul and worship, whether the obligatory or the recommended acts of worship, as intellectual uprising and spiritual radiance are two magnificent means that enable any woman wishing to work in the field of Da‘wah(propagation) to succeed and work diligently.
2-    Developing her culture through reading and acquiring more knowledge. This keeps her away from falling into the trivialities into which many women have fallen after forsaking reading as soon as they obtained their higher education certificates.
3-    Committing herself to preparing the righteous medium where she lives, cooperates in goodness and exchanging advice. She should only keep in touch with those who will support her to undertake her great mission, which is reform and construction. Allah The Almighty commanded His Prophet,  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ), to do the same when He Says (what means): {And keep yourself patient [by being] with those who call upon their Lord in the morning and the evening, seeking His countenance. And let not your eyes pass beyond them, desiring adornments of the worldly life, and do not obey one whose heart We have made heedless of Our remembrance and who follows his desire and whose affair is ever [in] neglect.}[Quran 18:28]   
4-    She should conduct a dual process with herself, which depends on these two elements:
1-    Objective, neutral and ceaseless evaluation of her work, in addition to criticizing her own acts as if they were the acts of another woman.
2-    Planning to transform the current situation into the ideal one depending on the experiment that she went through and criticized.
All this prepares the cultured Muslim woman to assume her duty that has two main fields: the home and society.
 
The Home is a Fortified Castle
 
The home is the fortified castle that the enemies of Islam still target in an attempt to detach it from any Islamic influence, but they have not yet succeeded in conquering it completely. Nevertheless, they have succeeded in sneaking into some of its members through the educational curricula and mass media. They are proceeding with their cunning and destructive plans, and the more a Muslim home lacks awareness, the more those enemies will achieve their aims easily. The woman is the main pillar of the Muslim home and it is her duty to protect her home from the destructive methods of its enemies. It is her duty to guarantee that the Muslim home will continue to undertake its everlasting mission in bringing up the children of this nation who adhere to Islam and pledge allegiance to it.
 
A truly cultured Muslim woman could turn her home into a mine of heroes. History has told us about giants in all fields whose Muslim homes greatly influenced them. For example, the righteous home of Ibn Taymiyyah  may  Allah  have  mercy  upon  himplayed a remarkable role in raising him on seeking knowledge, Jihaad, righteousness and reform. Similarly, we have heard about reformist pioneers and activists in the field of Islamic Da‘wah whose Muslim homes primarily influenced their upbringing. A sincere, wise and cultured Muslim woman would protect her children and husband against deviation. Moreover, if this woman had a strong personality, she would reform the conditions of her brothers, sisters and parents and guide all of them to the right way of Islam.
 
Raising a Generation of Holy Warriors Rather Than a Generation That Lives in Luxury
 
Today’s generation lives in luxury and is spoiled by means of entertainment until it has strayed far from manhood, uprightness and righteousness. This generation will never be able to restore the occupied lands or remove the disgrace that it lives under. Also, the greatest Islamic issue, the Palestinian issue, will only be solved by a generation that adheres to faith and Jihaad. This is the task of the aware Muslim woman within the Muslim home. The Quran tells us about virtuous women who had a great influence on history like Maryam (Mary), the mother of Moosa (Moses), may Allah exalt his mention, the queen of Sheba and the wife of Pharaoh. We also had many other virtuous women throughout our history like Khadeejah, ‘Aa’ishah and Umm Salamah, may Allah be pleased with them. The righteousness of the home that receives a newborn guarantees his psychological, mental and physical health and safety. Also, such a home implants the fundamental values that we need in our life, in general, and in our battle, in particular. - islamweb.net

The Muslim Woman and Her Parents


Treating parents dutifully
One of the main distinguishing characteristics of the true Muslim woman is her respectful and kind treatment of her parents. Islam encourages respect towards and kind treatment of parents in many definitive texts of the Quran and Sunnah; any Muslim woman who reads these texts has no choice but to adhere to their teachings and treat her parents with kindness and respect, no matter what the circumstances or the state of the relationship between daughter and parents.
The Muslim woman who has embraced the values of Islam is kind and respectful towards her parents, treating them well and choosing the best ways to speak to them and deal with them. She speaks to them with all politeness and respect, and surrounds them with all honor and care, lowering to them the wing of humility, as commanded by Allah in the Quran. She never utters a word of contempt or complaint to them, no matter what the circumstances, always heeding the words of Allah: {Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and that you be kind to parents. Whether one of both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: `My Lord! Bestow on them Your mercy even as they cherished me in childhood.}[Quran 17:23-24]
Recognizing parents' status and duties towards them
From her reading of the Quran, the Muslim woman understands the high status to which Allah Has raised parents, and that it is a status which mankind has never known except in Islam, which has placed respect for parents just one step below belief in Allah and true worship of Him. Many verses of the Quran parallel pleasing one's parents with pleasing Allah, and confirm that treating parents well is the best of good deeds after having faith in Allah. Allah Says (what means): {Serve Allah, and join not any partners with Him; and do good, to parents…}[Quran 4:36]
So the Muslim woman who truly understands the teachings of her religion is kinder and more respectful towards her parents than any other woman in the world; this does not stop when she leaves the home to marry and start her own family, and has her own, independent, busy life. Her respect and kindness towards her parents are ongoing and will remain an important part of her behavior until the end of her life, in accordance with the Quranic teaching which has enjoined kind treatment of parents for life, especially when they reach old age and become incapacitated and are most in need of kind words and good care; Allah Says (what means): {Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and that you be kind to parents. Whether one of both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say, `My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood.}[Quran 17:23-24]
The Muslim woman whose heart has been illuminated with the light of Quranic guidance is always receptive and responsive to this divine instruction, which she reads in the versesthat enjoin good treatment of parents. Therefore, her kindness and respect towards them will increase, and she will be even more devoted to serving them. She will do her utmost to please them, even if she has a husband, house, children and other responsibilities of her own;' Allah Says (what means): 
  • {And We have enjoined on man [to be good] to his parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear him . . .} [Quran 31:14]
  • {We have enjoined on man kindness to parents . . .} [Quran 29:8]
  • {Serve Allah, and join not any partners with Him; and do good - to parents…} [Quran 4:36]
There are plenty of Hadeeth that reinforce the message of the above quoted versesand reiterate the virtue of kindness and respect towards one's parents, as well as warning against disobedience or mistreatment of them for any reason whatsoever.
`Abdullaah ibn Mas`ood  may  Allah  have  mercy  upon  him said: "I asked the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) `Which deed is most liked by Allah?' He  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) said, `Prayer offered on time.' I asked him  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) `Then what?' He  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) said, `Kindness and respecttowards parents.' I asked him  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) `Then what?' He  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) said, `Jihaad for the sake of Allah.'"[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
What a high status the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) has given to parents by placing kindness to them between these two high ranking deeds; Prayer is the pillar or foundation of the faith and Jihaad is the pinnacle of Islam!
A man came and asked the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) for permission to participate inJihaad. He  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) asked him, "Are your parents alive?"The man said, "Yes," so the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) told him, "So perform Jihaad by taking care of them."[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
In the midst of preparing his  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) army for Jihaad, the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) did not forget the weakness of parents and their claims on their children, so he  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) gently reminded him to take care of his parents. This is because he  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) understood the importance of respect and kind treatment of parents, and knew its position in the overall Islamic framework that Allah has designed for the well being and happiness of mankind.
Kindness to parents should be practiced both during their lives and after their deaths. After their death, she shows her love and respect by praying for them, giving charity on their behalf, and paying off whatever debts they may owe to Allah or to other people. A woman of Juhaynah came to the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) and said: "My mother owed a month's fasting, so may I fast on her behalf?" The Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) said, "Fast on her behalf." She said, "She never performed Hajj, so may I perform Hajj on her behalf?" He  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) said:"Perform Hajj on her behalf."[Muslim]
Respecting non-Muslim parents
The Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) raised his teachings to a new peak by enjoining the companions, may Allah be pleased with them, to treat their parents with kindness and respect even if they were not Muslims. Asmaa' bint Abi Bakr Al-Siddeeq, may Allah be pleased with her, said: "My mother came to me, and she was not Muslim. I asked the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) `My mother has come to me and needs my help, so should I help her?' He  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) said, `Yes, keep in touch with your mother and help her.'" [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
No to disobedience
Just as the Muslim woman hastens to treat her parents with kindness and respect, she is also afraid to commit the sin of disobeying them, because she realizes the enormity of this sin which is counted as a major grave sin.
Islam paints a frightening picture of the one who disobeys her parents, and this stirs her conscience and softens any hardness of heart or harsh feelings that she might be harboring.
Islam draws a comparison between disobedience towards one's parents and the crime of associating partners with Allah. Nufay` ibn Al-Haarith, may Allah be pleased with him, said: "The Messenger of Allah  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) asked us three times, `Shall I tell you the greatest sins?'We said, `Yes, O Messenger of Allah  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ).' He  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) said: `Associating partners with Allah and disobeying one's parents.'" [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
Mothers first
A man came to the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) and asked him, "O Messenger of Allah, who among people is most deserving of my good company?" He  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) said,"Your mother." The man asked, "Then who?" The Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) said, "Your mother." The man asked, "Then who?" The Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) said, "Your mother." The man asked, "Then who?" The Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) said, "Then your father." [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
This confirms that the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allah exalt his mention ) gave precedence to kind treatment of one's mother over kind treatment of one's father. Ibn `Abbaas, may Allah be pleased with him, a great scholar and jurist, considered kind treatment of one's mother to be the best deed to bring one closer to Allah. A man came to him and said, "I asked for a woman's hand in marriage, and she refused me. Someone else asked for her hand and she accepted and married him. I felt jealous, so I killed her. Will my repentance be accepted?" Ibn `Abbaas, may Allah be pleased with him, asked, "Is your mother still alive?" He said, "No." So he told him, "Repent to Allah and do your best to draw close to Him."
`Ataa' ibn Yassar, may Allah be pleased with him, asked Ibn Abbaas, may Allah be pleased with him, `Why did you ask him if his mother was still alive?' He, may Allah be pleased with him, said, `Because I know of no other deed that brings people closer to Allah than kind treatment and respect towards one's mother.'"
The Quran evokes feelings of love and respect in the heart of the child, and encourages him or her to treat parents well. It refers to the mother being given precedence because of pregnancy and breast-feeding, and the pains and trials that she suffers during these two stages, in a most gentle and compassionate way. It recognizes her noble sacrifice and great tenderness and care. Allah Says (what means): {And We have enjoined on man [to be good] to his parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in years twain was his weaning: [hear the command]: `Show gratitude to Me and to your parents: to Me is [your final] Goal.}[Quran 31:14]
What supreme teaching! What humane, compassionate direction: "Show gratitude to Me and to your parents." Showing gratitude to parents for what they have done for their child comes second only to showing gratitude to Allah, and is one of the best righteous deeds. What a high status this religion gives to parents!
Ibn `Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, saw a Yemeni man circumambulating the Ka`bah, carrying his mother. The man said to him, "I am like a tame camel for her: I have carried her more than she carried me. Do you think I have paid her back, O Ibn `Umar?" He replied, "No, not even one contraction!"
Finally, dutifulness to parents will protect a person from hard-heartedness and ingratitude. What is more, it will open to them the gates of Paradise. -islamweb.net