Question
If a girl observes hijâb, but after she gets married her husband does not allow her to do so, what should she do? I am worried about what I should do when I get married if I fall into this situation.
Answer
A Muslim woman's observance of hijâb in the presence of non-mahram men is part of her religious observance. She should not discard her religious convictions to to please anyone.
Allah says: “Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty. That will make for greater purity for them, and Allah is acquainted with all that they do. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands’ fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers or their brothers’ sons, or their sisters’ sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male attendants free of sexual desires or small children who have no carnal knowledge of women.” [Sûrah al-Nûr: 30-31]
Another verse, known as the verse of hijâb, was reveled in the fifth year after the emigration to Madinah. “O Prophet, tell your wives and daughters and the believing women that they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when out of doors): that is most convenient, that they should be known (as such) and not molested. And Allah is Oft-forgiving, most merciful” [Sûrah al-Ahzâb: 59]
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “There is no obedience to created beings in the disobedience of Allah.” [Musnad Ahmad]
Obedience to Allah takes precedence over obedience to anyone else, even one’s own parents. Allah says: “And We have enjoined on man to be good to his parents. In travail upon travail did his mother bear him and in two years was his weaning. Show gratitude to Me and to your parents. To Me is the final goal. But if they strive to make you join in worship with Me things of which you have no knowledge, obey them not. Yet bear them company in this life in a goodly manner.” [Sûrah Luqmân: 14-15]
Therefore, a woman is not expected to obey her husband in such matters. It is not his place to prevent her. She should follow her religious convictions and also call him to what is right. Indeed, this husband should be told to fear Allah and to be thankful that Allah has granted a wife who wishes to obey her Lord.
Since you are still single, you should take care to marry a man who is religious and upright, who is compatible with your religious understanding, and will therefore be supportive of you in your faith.
Allah says: “Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty. That will make for greater purity for them, and Allah is acquainted with all that they do. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands’ fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers or their brothers’ sons, or their sisters’ sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male attendants free of sexual desires or small children who have no carnal knowledge of women.” [Sûrah al-Nûr: 30-31]
Another verse, known as the verse of hijâb, was reveled in the fifth year after the emigration to Madinah. “O Prophet, tell your wives and daughters and the believing women that they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when out of doors): that is most convenient, that they should be known (as such) and not molested. And Allah is Oft-forgiving, most merciful” [Sûrah al-Ahzâb: 59]
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “There is no obedience to created beings in the disobedience of Allah.” [Musnad Ahmad]
Obedience to Allah takes precedence over obedience to anyone else, even one’s own parents. Allah says: “And We have enjoined on man to be good to his parents. In travail upon travail did his mother bear him and in two years was his weaning. Show gratitude to Me and to your parents. To Me is the final goal. But if they strive to make you join in worship with Me things of which you have no knowledge, obey them not. Yet bear them company in this life in a goodly manner.” [Sûrah Luqmân: 14-15]
Therefore, a woman is not expected to obey her husband in such matters. It is not his place to prevent her. She should follow her religious convictions and also call him to what is right. Indeed, this husband should be told to fear Allah and to be thankful that Allah has granted a wife who wishes to obey her Lord.
Since you are still single, you should take care to marry a man who is religious and upright, who is compatible with your religious understanding, and will therefore be supportive of you in your faith.
-islamtoday.net
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