After Divorce, I Crave for Love

 

Getting divorced is an emotional experience, which can cause pain, depression, and sadness. It also leaves one desiring love, intimacy, and a connection.

Voids After Divorce

When one is married and then gets divorced, there appears to be avoided because you are used to being with someone. You are used to sharing special intimate times with a husband. Now that there is no longer a husband, you are left with just your feelings of desire.

Dealing with Desires

Sister, I kindly advise you to consider keeping your mind busy to ward off your desires. While desires are normal and natural as we are human beings, there are things we can do to decrease the intensity and frequency.

Take up a new hobby. Join a gym and engage in an exercise program. Attend social events with friends. Join Islamic classes for learning and increasing your knowledge. Get more involved with life activities and acts of worship. It is difficult to feel desire when one is focused on spiritual pursuits.

Go to Allah for Strength

I kindly advise that insha’Allah, you also make duaa to Allah and ask Him to help guide you and deal with the situation of your feelings for desire. By depending on and trusting in Allah’s mercy and protection, insha’Allah you will soon find that your desires are more manageable.

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Conclusion

Life after divorce is not an easy transition. Feelings of desire may be one of the hardest to deal with.

However, with an active lifestyle involving a balance in the areas of Islamic activities, family, friends, personal pursuits, you should be able to control your feelings of desire.

When our lives are not balanced and lack positive things and people, we tend to have more time to overthink our issues, especially regarding a desire for intimacy.

We wish you the best!

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About Aisha Mohammad

Aisha received her PhD in psychology in 2000 and an MS in public health in 2009. Aisha worked as a Counselor/Psychologist for 12 years for Geneva B. Scruggs Community Health Care Center in New York. Aisha specializes in trauma, depression, anxiety, substance abuse, marriage/relationships issues, as well as community-cultural dynamics. She is certified in Restorative Justice/ Healing Circles, Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and is also a certified Life Coach. Aisha works at a Family Resource Center, and has a part-time practice in which she integrates healing and spirituality using a holistic approach. Aisha plans to open a holistic care counseling center for Muslims and others in the New York area in the future, in sha' Allah. Aisha is also a part of several organizations that advocate for social & food justice. In her spare time she enjoys her family, martial arts classes, Islamic studies as well as working on her book and spoken word projects.

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