How Do I Repent Properly to God?

 

Reflects a good intention and a sign of somebody having a seed of a piety in his/her heart, which springs off a sense of guilt and remorsefulness, and that’s a first important condition and ingredient of Tawbah Nasuha (sincere repentance) opening the door of acceptance and forgiveness from the mighty creator, bi iznillah, as Allah says in the Quran: “O you who believe, repent to Allah with sincere repentance! Maybe your Lord will absolve you of your misdeeds and admit you into Gardens (Jannah) with streams running in them…” (Quran 66:8). 

This type of repentance is also one of the prayers and supplications of the Prophet (pbuh) indicating its significance: “O Allah, grant me sincere repentance before death”. 

 So I would say “congratulations” sister for having that spirit “of having genuine remorsefulness, and please stick to it, our Lord is “lord of mercy”, and as He said in his hadith qudsi “Verily, my mercy prevails over my wrath”, and based on this He forgives all the sins (except shirk – polytheism); meaning that  if  we  repent sincerely even our major sins can be forgiven. Haven’t you heard the story of a man who killed 99 persons and yet never felt despair in Allah’s mercy. In his quest for Allah’s mercy and forgiveness, he killed another person, making it hundred; despite all this, Allah subhanau wa tahala forgave him, Subhanallah!

So here are what I would recommend for you to do:

1- Capitalize of that good spirit you have now (as mentioned above) and process it properly towards a level of “genuine sense of guilt and remorsefulness”

2- Never despair in God’s mercy: Move towards your Lord, get closer to Him, feel Him in your heart and cry unto Him, seeking His forgiveness and mercy, as the Quran says:  “Flee to Allah; indeed, I am to you from Him a clear warner” (Quran 51:50) — While doing this, don’t let Satan weigh you down or discourage you, Allah is there for you always. 

3- Tawhbah Nasuuha (sincere repentance): As mentioned above, let me quickly reiterate here that you will need to follow the above step with a sincere repentance which means that you would have in your heart a strong avowal of dutifulness and intention not to go back again, and that you will henceforth try to be an obedient servant of Allah, and He will certainly help you on that, because repentance is certainly the most cherished act of obedience in the eyes of Allah. May Allah accept it from us and help us attain the level of His devotees and pious servants, Ameen

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